What to do when H doesn't contact?

[dday101798]

Hi GF.

I can certainly relate to the depression issue. That was one of my king mistakes in my MR. When (x)W's mother passed and shortly after that our long awaited daughter not making it, (x)W went on a slow tailspin I didn't pick up on. Her life became all about her.

This left me to feel rejected, worthless, and all that jazz. I was used to it, got it from my 'parents' too. So, I shut down and didn't realize how bad things really were getting. (x)W had asked several times I try AD's, but I wanted no part of them. I'm opposed to them personally, for others thay may be neccessary. If I had to do it all over again, I might, but, I made it through this so far without, so that's my stance. That said, I can't vouch for how one refusing to take them anymore would effect their stability in their M, but can only assume it does especially after extended use.

Of course your H blames you solely for the M problems, he will re-write every bit of history just to do that to. It's all part of the 'script' they live by. However, we are all guilty of fading out of our M's all of us, so what is it he says may have some thruth in it?