Calling out the Piecers

[dday101798]

The in-laws,

Well, MIL was an intrigal part to (x)W's deteriorating behavior. She passed in 2006. That was hard on (x)W, very hard. MIL was the glue that kept that family together, and everyother family or soul she touched. She was (x)W's sounding board and advice chest. Heck, even mine. Heaven truly gained another angel when she was called upon. (and for the record, I think that is truly the most religous thing I've ever said, written or thought.)

FIL, well. We had a very bad start back in the beginning of my relationship to (x)W. It took him a while and some confrontation to come to level terms. In time, that passed and we became pretty close. When I retunred to school to gain education for a new career to better our family life, he was delighted. Often referred to me as one of his own S's and him to me, te father I never had.

He was in turn, supportive of me in my efforts to save the M. One morning shortly after (x)W left, he found me out on my deck, reading DB. He confirmed with me some of (x)W's accusations against of me and the things I did wrong. Even then, he was supportive and said that thigns will eventually work out.

My relationship was fine with him until, enter money porblems. The root of all evil. It was becoming more and more apparent that (x)W's motive was to go through with the D and take the kids all together. I could not allow this. Even with the assistance with 'rent' (when paid ) from a "friend" who moved in after (x)W left, there was no way I could make ends meet on the mortgage in FIL's name, the bills, and fund a legal defense.

So, 12/08 I sent FIL a certified letter that I'd be leaving the house 2/1/09 and spoke with him several times regarding the issue on the phone. He never signed for the letter, and continually said "we'll figure something out" during conversation that I WAS leaving.

I paid everything up and through 2/1/09 and on 2/14 when (x)W withheld S12 on his birthday from me, I had the final straw, purchased a vehicle that I needed in order to live with my cousin, and began to move. Upon returning for my second load, I walked in the front door to find FIL, intoxicated, fuming, claiming I was screwing him, threatened my life, and we've been on non-speaking terms ever since. He has truly become a greedy man since the death of MIL, and that is a shame. To this day, he is still with-holiding well over $3,000 in tools of mine as collatoral for whatever debts he thinks I owe him.

I simply can't wait until the day that (x)W informs him that we are working to R. She can't keep it hidden much longer. She's already told him she is returning to the house, step 1 in a multi step approach to do so without giving him a hear attack, for real, he's had several.

I don't think it would take much to repair our indifferences. Obviously, it must happen soon or later. I do believe in my heart that he is still supportive of my fight for the M.