Yes PMA it is about respect, I won't live with secrets or lies or deception anymore, and I'm at the point in my life that I won't live without respect & honesty, those things are just too important to me, I won't play the clueless fool anymore and if she can't own up to what she has done and the sordid details attached to those events, it isn't my loss - it's hers.
Detachment is the way to go, no contact didn't hurt either, these past 2 months I've had very little contact & communication with her, I let her stand on her own two feet without any assistance from me and I'm sure the difference was felt and it's possible the christmas season itself may have assisted with this, seriously I never been happier in my life and whichever way this goes, I will be better than just OK.
My cellphone is taking a beating from all of the texts she is sending, it's never vibrated so much before, I'm almost tempted to shove it inside my pants and make use of this energy she's sending my way (just kidding.... maybe).