Rob, I don't think you commented on my thread but I have been solidly behind you on many of your posts to others.
I disagree with mindfull re: knowing about the affairs. The details matter because she will not talk about them. It's just more deceit, especially if you know about them through your own intel and she continues to deny. I know that I firmly believe the lying hurts more than the cheating. If she won't come clean now how would you ever start to trust or believe her again?
My two cents would echo the others, although I think I see where you're coming from. What exactly would you want to see from her before considering reconciliation? Have you given her this list?
If she balks at any of the requirements then she's made the choice.
I agree Pearl, that's exactly what I'm talking about, she acknowledges that PA's occurred, she's just not giving me any details because she doesn't want to make me angry - seriously I'm not angry, in fact during these past 2 discussions I was so cool I was an ice cube, no worries!
