Oh definitely if you haven't read either of those books then by all means please do!!
Again, back off from H. Please don't call H again, please? Come here first. I know there were many times that I did the same thing you did, called H. But it didn't work and then I BACKED OFF and slowly but surely he's coming back around.
Hang in there girl there's hope for you two yet.
Cathy
P.S. The books are great, the principles do work. There will never be a replacement for the bible, but try to think of these books as your bible, if you can.
