Thanks Greek. You have a ton of credibility too, as well as Sandi. So who knows, maybe I did bust it, maybe it goes deeper undercover. About the only "signs" I can think of watching for is her attitude and attention. When she was in the throws of the EA, she stopped paying attention to our kids and worked extra late hours (because she was wasting so much of her day communicating with the OM and yes I told her this when I exposed the EA...told her she was unfocused on home, work and family and that it was destructive on all fronts). That and attitudes. During the EA, she had good days and bad days. Now we just have rage. So I guess if we go back to up/down -- ie very moody, then maybe that is a sign.
Last night she actually paid attention to the girls, no kidding gave them her focus, for the first time in at least 6-8 weeks.

Any thoughts on the Christmas gift?


M39 W41
Two children
WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09
Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10
No longer piecing...Nov 10
Separation Jan 11
EA ends again Feb 11
Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11