Ok, seriously, if you KNOW she had a/an/several EA/PA's, what do the details matter, after the fact? If you think she's in one NOW, then I guess I understand...
I'm thinking a bit of your own advice is needed. Like... OK, I'm willing to work on this, w/these conditions... Give her the list... letter of no contact, transparency, moving into this slowly, re-building the trust, etc... Tell her, if any one of these conditions makes you hesitate, then, no dice.
I understand you're still harboring the resentment from her lies and overall dishonesty, but if she's willing to move on, together, with your boundaries in place, then forgive her, and see where it gets you.
Just my two cents.
Glad to have an update from you. You are an amazing man.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
