All through our M H seemed to choose work over the kids and I. He worked every weekend and holidays were about me taking the kids somewhere and H joining us for 2-3 days. He didn't really have to work but he 'had to' because he needed to stay in control. There were very few outings except to dinner as a family.
Since our separation H has been to several concerts and had several weekends away. Now he's taking a holiday, destination unknown. I don't deny him a holiday but I must admit to feeling pi$$ed that he's doing all these things now and with OW. There's hurt for the fact that he couldn't ever give time to do these things with his family.
I know it's not about her, it's about him. She just comes along for the journey. I feel pathetic writing this but I am hoping writing it will be therapeutic.
Lots of 'stuff' coming out at the moment, mainly hurt and anger.
Like so many other WAS H has abandoned his responsibilities and I am left looking after the kids and holding it altogether. He seems to have it all; life with a partner, time with his kids as it suits him, time alone, a career change, a new home and car.
