I'm not sure how to respond to H's email. I would probably just reply with the business answers: yes, it's done and I'll be away from X to X.
Have you checked with a L to see if he can put you out of the house? I know it's in his name but isn't it considered the marital home? Just to be on the safe side I'd probably have a settlement drawn up or at least the part about him paying for your rent if he wants you out of the house.
Ack, I'm sorry he's being such a pill for the holidays.
He can't put me out of the marital home without a court order. He may not know that however. If he raises the issue about me moving out, (before he finds out that I'm already doing that), we can negotiate something.
I dislike having to deal with this over the holidays, but it was my choice to do it this way. I could have told him I was leaving months ago. All in all, I think this was the better choice for me.
I'm not telling him anything yet. When, (or if) I do, I'll tell him I will be here for the holidays, possibly expecting guests at the house. I'm not going to let him think he has an opening to skulk back in while I'm gone to avoid facing me.
