Hey Cathy! I was disappointed not to chat with you last night but glad you got around to me this morning .
I met him this morning to 'exchange' the boys and he just wanted to linger. I mean he was in no hurry to go. I came to the meeting dressed to the 9s, looking hot, showing some belly! He looked and looked, didn't say anything but watched me. I finally had to end it by getting in my van since he was in no hurry to go and I was afraid he was going to say something ugly! As I got into my van, I caught him watching me.
My last message to him was an invite to go camping this coming weekend. He hasn't said NO and he hasn't said YES. So I'm hopeful.
I found this excellent book called 'Couple Fits' and found out what our personality types are. He's an avoider (imagine that!). The book describes him as unaffectionate, gruff, avoids talking about issues in depth by turning it back to me (wow)...but the book was excellent in that it had solutions on how to deal with this type person. Main one: DON'T PUSH BUTTONS!!! Also would help not to push them into a corner by giving suggestions. You've got to get it! I think it will give you some insights about your H's personality. It gave me a whole new perspective on how to deal with him and how he views my r talks.
I guess I'm tired too and that is pushing me to act needy! I so want to call him again today just to hear his voice...but what stops me is that he'll most likely say something real ugly.
I'm just going to have to wait him out and pray, pray that he comes around. Today when I went to church the pastor's sermon had a point that though we may not believe our troubled situation has changed we should remember that God doesn't sleep and He's always at work...working for the good of those who love Him. That's so encouraging...that God is working, I may not see anything right away but I should be grateful for the silence because I can be sure that something amazing is in the works. God's hand is in it. That is so comforting!
I look forward to reading your email this evening. I'm trying to stay busy while my sons visit their dad by visiting friends and getting out of the house today. I'm at the library right now. I hope you are having a good day! I can't wait to hear what is up with your h today!!!
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