On the way to cub scouts last night I mentioned to S8 how I appreciated that he, S5 and his mother managed to make it to church the previous day. S8 replied that they had actually left Mr. OM's house in plenty of time, at "ten o'clock", to make it to church.
I replied, "Oh, you left at 10 PM last night? You didn't stay the night at Mr. OM's place after all?"
S8 clarified, "No, we did stay overnight. We just left at 10 AM in the morning to make it to church on time."
So that confirmed again that they had an overnight under the same roof, against our legal agreement. Thus I knew what my next step had to be -- to contact the Parenting Coordinator (PC).
I had to talk via phone with the PC (I don't know why he doesn't just give out his email!) He heard my concerns and seemed somewhat sympathetic to my position, especially since ex is in violation with the court at this point.
He suggested that I send a letter to ex and state for her my official objection to her violation of our agreement and tell her that I had talked to him (the PC) and he had suggested that I contact her myself to communicate my position.
I had already been thinking along these lines, but didn't know if I wanted to lodge this with her first before contacting the PC or vice versa. Now I am glad I talked to the PC first.
Time to write that letter of complaint.
After that? Well, I can expect xW to get pretty nasty and respond with a lot of false accusations. She'll likely start talking again about taking me to court to rest any custody rights away from me altogether. Stuff she's threatened before.
But I'm no longer going to let it bother me or sway me. She can bankrupt the both of us further through legal proceedings, but whatever -- she's flighty enough to do so anyway even without my lifting a finger.
No, I will take it one day at a time. I'm going to just enjoy my time with my S's and ignore their toxic mother.
It's funny -- I can find the time to spend true Christian compassion for just about anyone anywhere anytime now of days. But for my ex and her cohorts, I simply won't waste my time any more. They're in God's hands, totally and completely where I am concerned.
It's going to make my threads here all the more sedate, but so be it. I may rant about something from time to time, just to vent and get it out of my system, but I hope eventually to really be as indifferent to xW and her nonsense as she likes to make me out to be.
To that end, I have been thinking about when to shut down this thread and start a new one -- in keeping with the moderators' wishes that we self-manage thread length. Does anyone have any suggestions for good thread titles?
