W is getting wackier and it is turning ugly, but not unlike the other WAW's I have read about on these boards. Contacting quasi-GF was the spark that lit this fire so I am watching it burn. Once they decide that they HAVE to pursue their single life they have a one-track mind. Their greed and selfishness reaches a whole new level!
She found a place she wants to rent. She wants me to pay her so she can go and rent this place. I told her no, that I would only pay her to set up separate household if it was part of a negotiated divorse settlement or via a court order. I told her she can work a couple more days a week and easily cover the rent, so why wouldn't she do that if it is that important to her?
She then went crazy - threatening me to cooperate with her 'or else' she would hire her attorney and I would have to pay half her attorney fees and she would sue me for temp child support, etc. We have had a disagreement about how much I should be liable to pay her - should it be based upon her current work schedule or working full time or close to it? The Ls I consulted with say the latter, but she doesn't agree.
Just a week ago she was saying she wanted to go to a mediator.
I suggested that. I told her lets go to a mediator and come up with a divorce settlement and I will start paying you whatever we agree to as soon as we come up with the agreement while we wait for D to final.
I am not sure what she really wants here, but I think it is to help her rent a place ( I can't afford it anyway ) but no other changes (she still works 2 days/week, no divorce filing, agreements, etc).
Obviously I never wanted a D but was getting to the end or my rope recently, but she continues to drive towards the cliff so I am not getting in the way, but I am not going to be ran over in the process either.
My kids are the innocent victims in all this - she is so selfish and isn't considering the economic and emotional impact on their lives. She is telling me I should 'do the right thing for our kids' and pay her to leave and be able to rent a nice house(!) Isn't that crazy? I told her the best thing for her to do for her kids is step up and work more so SHE can pay for the nicer place for herself. <I quit trying to tell her the best thing for her kids is to work on the M a long time ago>
I just tried to get a consultation with the L I talked to before to understand what my rights are if she leaves and what I am liable for financially but he is booked up until January (darn).
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
