Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[MichelleLT]

You are assuming. No assumptions, no expectations.

My XH was shocked at my reaction when I found out about his As and when he asked for S and again when he asked for D. He figured since he thought everything in the M was horrible, I did too, and I would be happy to go my own way. He thought I'd be fine.

She is wrapped up in his own mental fog. She's not thinking about anyone else, just herself. Don't assume you know what she's thinking or why she's doing the things she is doing. She is lashing out, that's all.

Only she can save herself. She has to hit bottom, like any addiction, before she can pull herself out of it. You trying to help her only delays the inevitable. You have to let her face reality.

It is natural to feel that way. She's your W. I still, after all these years, the D being final, etc. wonder if my XH is doing okay, if he ever got his $h!t together, and I still miss being M to him sometimes.