Pls help--confused and fearful

[newmama]

I did explain problems to him in the M after he left. He didn't care. I feel I have the most cold WAS and hopeless case here on the boards.

Sorry, DBD I meant did you tell US (the board) about your problems in M? Not that you have to. It is useless to try and talk to WAS about problems when they are in an A. As for your WH being the worst, I don't think so. Like I told Keepstrong once, it seems WSs act like jerks OR act like cake eaters. Again, this is based on stories I have read from huge forums like supportinginfidelity.com or marriagebuilders. Besides, they are all terrible because they continue to cause hurt and pain in the A.

And I keep forgetting that you haven't filed for D, just financial support, right?
So until he files, you don't have to.

You really are doing well with GALing and self improvements. And a new career awaits you after college!!!

It is not hopeless. Even if you D, you can choose to go on with your life and who knows what may happen. IF you want him back at that point. I'm being serious. Affairs rarely end in marriage to the OP. The statistics support that and even if the WS marries OP, statistics show the marriage doesn't last.

Again, your WAS does not shock me with his behavior or make me think to myself "it's over between DBD and her WH." It is horrible to see the pain and devestation he has caused you and your kids.

I haven't checked your newcomer's thread in awhile.