Pls help--confused and fearful

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I did explain problems to him in the M after he left. He didn't care. I feel I have the most cold WAS and hopeless case here on the boards.

DBD I don't want to start the 'my dad is bigger than your dad' fight (it's a Scottish thing) but .... have you read my thread!??!? I have a WAS, who, after finding out about my mum passing away didn't even send me a card, text or anything ... a WAS who is holding onto my 8 year old D's car seat ... a WAS who is publicly flaunting her OM ... now THAT is cold ...

Remember also that no WAS cares about the problems in the M when they leave. Not a single one of them. They need to get that realisation, that shock or jolt before they wake up.

You are going for full custody of your kids I assume (as he works away)?

I actually think, and I could be wrong here so it's just an opinion, that if you went VERY VERY dark on your H, things may thaw. He seems to have a HUGE amount of anger towards you and the only want to actually quench it is to remove yourself completely from him. I know you have kids so things will be a little awkward but that can be worked around if you are determined. What you have done up until now hasn't worked so it may be worth a try. However you still have to want to R the M and I think, like me, you may have just given up.