"I have decided I will not allow my boys to be exposed to your mistress while we are still married. As soon as you address this then I will be willing to listen."
You can't budge on this point. It's wrong - you know it and he knows it.
You are at the point where you need to consider legal counsel. Custody, finances and the brutal reality need to be addressed by both of you.
Don't say anything about the PO remarks right now.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
