If it's ok with you, I will take C on the 29th and make arrangements to spend time with N another date. I am not negating N, I just don't want to confuse him any more. I love both boys the same. I am not playing favorites in any manner. I didn't arrange anything with C, I asked him if he would like to come over and then sent you an email. I am not gonna get into the social services or custody thing with you. I will merely say that with C's grades, school attendance, lack of parental supervision and legal trouble being on probation. . . .I don't think a judge is going to side with you. I told you from the beginning that I would not fight you for them. . .so don't bring that crap up or I will ask for full custody. Is the 29th good with you?
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
He's baiting you and projecting onto you. Don't respond right now, I'm sure you are PO'd (I am.)
Remember this is hardball. He left his family, he hasn't been financially supporting you and hasn't been seeeing the kids. He has no idea how bad this will look in front of a judge. He loses across the board if he starts to fight and he knows it. He's trying to bully you.
I have some ideas just get to a place of calm first.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
"I have decided I will not allow my boys to be exposed to your mistress while we are still married. As soon as you address this then I will be willing to listen."
You can't budge on this point. It's wrong - you know it and he knows it.
You are at the point where you need to consider legal counsel. Custody, finances and the brutal reality need to be addressed by both of you.
Don't say anything about the PO remarks right now.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
"I have decided I will not allow my boys to be exposed to your mistress while we are still married. As soon as you address this then I will be willing to listen."
Nothing more nothing less?
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Sure you can validate his points that you heard him about not playing favorites.
"I understand that you aren't playing favorites and that you will spend time with both of them. You never addressed my issue about the boys being around your mistress. I have decided........."
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
