One more question: Xmas gifts...what do I do. I have a pair of nice diamond stud earrings...that was my plan before any of this happened. I know (because of all my checking on other stuff) she bought me a pretty nice watch that i will really like. Not as expensive as the earrings, but I guess similar kind of item/gesture. If I give her something nice, will that just set things backwards in the wrong direction even more? I can return them and I could even include a note that if she is not in a place to accept/want/wear them that I will return them.

Thoughts?

M39 W41
Two children
WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09
Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10
No longer piecing...Nov 10
Separation Jan 11
EA ends again Feb 11
Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11