Okay this morning I am feeling better. In reality, nothing bad happened last night other than WH arriving in an upbeat mood. I need to be patient, letting my actions chip, chip away! I also need to create distance to let him miss me.

I think just as WH might be normalizing, I am getting used to his "niceness" and am not reading into as much as I was. Like so what? He still has't left OW.

On the otherhand, it did take about 8 weeks before WH told me that he noticed I was cooking different dishes and that he thought it was impressive.

Tonight I will figure out a better evening routine. Here is what I have been doing and WH (approximate):

5:45-6:30 work out on elliptical watching DVD (loud)
WH is playing with S, feeds him, then gives him a bath
6:30-6:50 freshen up
WH is playing with S or bath
6:50-7:15ish cook dinner (I prep it before WH gets here)
WH is giving S evening bottle
7:15-8:15 eat dinner, watch TV/chat with WH
WH is putting S to sleep, then eats dinner. Hangs out until 8 or 8:15

Tomorrow when he is here on his day off, he might be expecting me to do something special like I did for Thanksgiving. But I wasn't planning on it. Just give him 2 presents from S and I (totally common even w/ divorced couples to gt gifts from the kids). Good or bad idea to not do something special like Thanksgiving?

Last edited by newmama; 12/22/09 05:21 PM.
me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004