But isn't this stuff pursuing? I mean, she remains very uncommitted to our marriage. At least it seems soo. But she has ended the A, she has not left, she has cooled the D talk, she has begged me to talk to her. Hell, she even noticed I was wearing brown shoes yesterday. So maybe there is some movement back into the M. Frankly, I can't blame her for not wanting to, our relationship sucks eggs!
Her primary ll are quality time and physical. Right now, she has had no interest in a physical relationship with me at all. (I think in part due to depression and OM) Anyway, do I focus on trying to create stress free opportunities for quality time? Do I make dates? Do I take time off from work over the holidays for her? Isn't this stuff pursuing and a major turn off to the WAW?
