Maybe it is and maybe it isn't. That part is beyond your control as you already know. Keep doing what you need to be doing.

Just popping in to let you know I do read your updates even if I don't have much to contribute.

Me 42
W 39
Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992
First Bomb: Sep 2007
Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007
Kids: D10, S5
Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak.
3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.