You will get stronger and your grief will lessen. If I can do it anybody can!
I am so pleased to hear you are seeing a counselor. I have actually come to enjoy my counseling sessions and really look forward to all the challenges they present. It's empowering actually.
I am at the point now where I feel so much stronger and focused that on the rare occasion I do have to speak to my H I really do feel great sympathy for him. He seems so weak and childlike and unable to deal with anything. He moved out almost 2 years ago and our legal separation became final on 11/17/09 and he is still saying the same things and behaving the same way he did when he first dropped the bomb. It's rather disturbing to witness now that I am in a much better place.
It takes a strong woman to say "hey, I am not going to tolerate this anymore and I do plan to proceed with MY best interest". It took me a long time to get to that point but once I did I simply stuck to the plan my attny mapped out for me and worked really hard to set boundaries so my new life could begin.
I won't sugar coat it and say the legal portion of divorce/separation is easy. Honestly it was one of the most frightening ordeals of my life but I manged to live through it
As strange as this sounds I am really enjoying the process of getting to know ME again. I feel like I got a second shot at life and how lucky is that?!
Anyhow, just wanted to throw some support your way! Happy Holidays and thanks for all the inspiration!
