It's been a while (Was: German wife)

[PortlandDad]

Thanks for the kind words folks. I definitely can say that I did everything to save my marriage. My mistake was thinking that she was coming home because she wanted to work on our marriage, instead of realizing that she was coming home because she broke, had no job, and the OM wasn't supporting her at all. Lordy you should have seen the look on her face when I told her that she wouldn't have unrestricted access to my bank account any more!

Hehe, a red and waving warning sign that I missed, unfortunately. The real downer is that this is the 2nd holiday season that her departure has torpedoed for my kids, for my S14 in particular. He is totally crushed by her abandonment.

You guys are right about needing to step up for my kids. I was Mr. Super Dad before my W came back in Aug, and I'm working hard to reclaim that title now. The depression and sadness that accompanied this latest separation was far less severe than what I felt the first time. Chalk it up to repetition and the fact that I now have both eyes fully open as to what she is doing.

KK: You are right; she is loony. I suppose I am a little loony as well because I fell for her lies from the very beginning: this was never a MLC, she never was trying to see if she could "make a life" for herself. It was an EA/PA from the first day. Amazing what a little hindsight is worth, eh?

Peace