Coach - As always - Thank you for coming and sharing your wisdom...I am happy to hear Puppy will be back - I miss him bunches...I hope all is well with him...I have revised it one more time (hopefully the last time) and then have to take a deep breath and hit the send button. (((Hugs)))
Dear H,
Until I'm satisfied that both boys are receiving equal attention from you and one is no longer being purposefully slighted and hurt, I don't feel comfortable with this arrangment.
As their Mother, I feel hurt and angry when you chose to see C over N. While I wouldn't keep either from you, you need to know that N also misses you and will feel confused if you only see C.
As their Father both the boys need to spend time alone with you. Exposing the boys to your mistress is hurtful and confusing to them and is completely unacceptable. It is disrespectful to them, me and reflects poorly on you as a man and Father.
If you won't agree to to keeping them away from her then I cannot condone them spending time with you.
If you continue to slight N - which hurts him deeply - I will stop all visits until this matter is settled to my satisfaction, with the assistance of Social Services or through legal custody action.
All visiting arrangements will be made by you and me alone or not at all. I will not allow arrangements to be made solely between you and C.
Serenity
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
