feel like giving up - talk to me!

[luvless]

There is a time to be hardheaded and there is a time to be empathetic.

I asked you before, "What does your H have to look forward to when he comes home?" ST answered: "Nothing"
Which is true.

You're not giving him reasons to be at home.
There is no warmth at home.
There is no comfort.
There is no peace.
Just tension and fuzzy expectations to live up to.

So why not just go out to a bar and chill, at least the people there want him around.

Do what Mindfull is doing. She is making home a place where H wants to be. A place he looks forward to return to. That's what she has to do at this moment. There will come a time when I'll advise her to change tactics, but now is not the time.

Loud and Clear G - I know this

I've been thinking about what he said to me...not wanting to come home...he's always rushed home. I am going to make him WANT to come home. At least I can say I did my best and when and IF he does leave - he will miss that!