I'm thinking it is a MLC because he just turned 35, suffers from depression, and body ailments when he's confronted with our R.
Quote: Look back honestly and what got you two to the point of him saying he wanted to stay married? And more importantly what happened to make him now change?
Well he got to that point after I left him totally alone and invited him to stuff and when he said no I made it clear I was going without him. I guess just acting as if what he did didn't matter to me...I was going to have fun.
Quote: Are there conversations you two have had that spark a reaction with him? Pushing his buttons? Pursuing? '
Yes, I push his buttons when I ask about US. He says I didn't do enough of the right pursuing like leaving him messages on his answering machine, kissing him, hugging him, saying positive things about his changes etc. I think the big mistake I made was asking him out but not waiting by my phone for him to call. He chose not to call my mobile though which was weird...he said if I call him from my house I need to be there on THAT phone to hear from him! My sister said he called my phone 30 times that night!!! I guess being consistent in my behavior as far as doing what I say I'm going to do would help him.
Quote: One other thing, if you do file for an extension, I would tell him before he gets it.
Yes, I'll leave him a message about the extension.
Thanks for your help, Water! The fog has lifted from my mind and I can see where I need to go now. Thanks everyone!
