Now more than ever!

[Coach]

I am really starting to think that I need to take the next step toward healing our relationship, but I do not want to seem like I am pursuing. Any thoughts?

When she stopped running away then there can be no pursuit. You are now trying to work on the reconciliation, first step is to get rid of negative emotions, second step is to re-establish the friendship.

'You won't talk to me about anything but the OM and you won't talk to me.'

Are you listening to her? She feels like you are punishing her over and over. Negative feelings on both sides. You can still have boundaries and loving at the same time.

Last night, I told my wife that I had bought myself a Christmas present and would wrap it and put it under the tree as if it were from her. She was flabergasted. She stammered around the topic.

I'm flabberghasted too, WTF that all about?

Finally, she asked if I bought her anything, I told her that I had. It seemed to really impact her that I was so accepting that she was so checked out.

You are grandstanding, you have no idea what she is thinking and you are patting yourself on the back.

I then remained present to give her an opportunity to talk more but she did not, so I left the room.

How do you know she wanted to talk? Walking out of a room without speaking to someone is rude, especially to a woman. You need to work on your listening and talking clearly. You are missing opportunities to connect emotionally.

Take the pressure off her - talk about OM, trying to show her how "right" you are. Learn to show compassion, validate and listen. Great question to ask is, "How can I help you with that?" Then do what she asks.