He says he wants the D for sure!

[Jamesjohn]

So you are saying just agree to his wanting the divorce and that all the stuff he says is wrong with our marriage is correct? That would be a 180 since I hate that he continually blames me! Feel like I have to defend myself. I'll do this...agree with what he says and end the conversation quickly. Most times he doesn't want to talk at all to me about anything.

Maybe you don't have to "agree" with EVERYTHING he says, but trying the 180 of not "defending yourself" might be worth a shot?

What would be at least one thing that, even though you might not "agree" with him on, you might be able to say that you can understand why he might feel that way?

When you've been less defensive about things in the past, what kinds of positive differences has this made in how he feels your discussions have gone?