Typical "I'm not happy" stuff and how he was "trying." When we were done he says, "that was a fun dinner huh?" (i didn't think so lol) cuz of the unhappy speech.
Yup, because as soon as you heard "unhappy" you switched off.
Originally Posted By: luvless
He does threaten me by saying stuff like "you better watch yourself" (very insulting to me) or he'll say, "you be nice or that's it for you." I find these threats very hurtful and demeaning.
He's telling you how he wants to be treated here. He is signaling that he is also almost at the end of his rope. He's trying and nothing seems to be getting through to you. SOMETHNG'S GOTTA GIVE HERE... and that something is you. Soften up my dear. I think you may still have a chance to resurrect this M. It won't be easy and unfortunately the first one that is going to have to change is you.
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I do have to say he's been more communicative these last couple days.
And you thought "His Needs, Her Needs" had no effect?
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I don't know guys...what should I do now? Should I start avoiding him and do my own thing? I want him to feel a sense of loss...like I do. He has completely taken me for granted!
He's the kind that if I ignore him he gets very offended. How do I detach when he seems to be opening up a little more?
In my opinion I think your trying to detach is VERY DETRIMENTAL. Contrary to DB'ing principles, now is the time for you to CONNECT with him. Luv, do you know what I see? I see you as the WAW... only difference is that your H is not going to do the LBS stuff. Your H has not walked away yet, but you have switched off.
