I understand where you are coming from woith the legl side and with his curent state of mind you have to protect yourself. This is what I dod in my sitch, we went to the wire with the legas (we had three court appearances) and the few times we did talk my wife had some very colourful names for me.
In the end the days leading up to the final court case woke her up as she saw the sense of finality in it all and for the foirst time really had to confront that I was not going to be in her life anymore. Up to this time she was in one big fog.
Playing the devils advocate on the extension. In the end what will you achieve from this except make him angry. If he really wants this path then give it to him. Let him know very clearly that this is all his and his decision. His feeling for you wont change with the signing of a piece of paper as much as they say they do. One thing that my wife has really made clear to me since we got back together is DONT BELIEVE WHAT THEY SAY.
Maybe once the shock hs worn off it may be wise to consider the granting him of the quick divroce while you ensure that you stand you ground ont he financial settlement side. Let him see the finality of it all.
Just soem thoughts. I really feel for you in these circumstances.
Andrew
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To go forward you have to put the past behind you
