I just came to your thread, so I admit not knowing what has transpired before this point. Have you considered going to a Retrouvaille weekend? It is a very successful method of helping people return to their their marriages. Info is on their website, www.helpourmarriage.org. One of the nice things about Retrouvaille is that it presents information from the perspectives of both the WAS and the LBS, and shows how both dealt with reconciliation. That might provide the kind of direction your wife is looking for. It is not MC'ing. It is people who have been through the pain themselves showing how they healed. They teach by example.
