Well, today is one of those days that I wasn't sure how to handle.
Today is STBXW birthday, I made sure d8 had gifts and card to give to her mom from her, but I had no intention of marking the day as I have been completely dark with her, and given what has been going on between us for the last few months..
However, the more I thought about it yesterday and now, I decided to send a simple email with "Happy Birthday!" in it to her. It may not be the correct thing to do, but I feel ok about it, so did so.
Christmas is right around the corner, and I'll be setting up new traditions between me and d8. I am looking forward to Christmas with her, but also going to miss how we had always done Christmas morning as a family..
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."