ok, disaster again yesterday - the story of my life I got a call from WH lunch yesterday to tell me he knew about my FB message to the co-worker - she didn't call him directly until then anyway but someone else told him (who knows who?) - anyway sends me a text saying - why I can't at least leave the few friends he has left alone ... Remember , they had unfriended each other on FB - I would have never contacted her otherwise... Any way we spoke 1.5 hours on the phone – first of all he admitted that him and her don’t talk anymore – you see this is what I am dealing with for 8 months – first a text that I should not scare his friends away and then an hour later – oh we don’t talk. Then he tells me first that he unfriended her because she was acting childish and then an hour later he says he unfriended her for strategic reasons when the securtity settings on FB changed. I don’t think either is true . Now he admitted to one thing – the woman he dated right after we split is the same woman who asked him out on a date in April – so they did know each other and she wasn’t a tenant. But first he said he called her after we split and then later he said he didn’t keep her number and she called him after we split - I mean I am an intelligent woman but even I have a hard time keeeping up with all the diferent versions. I told him right out I am not his friend – I don’t want him to tell me about other women. I am his wife for christ sake – he says I am not anymore and that I should stop living in the past. Then we spoke about how many times we talk on the phone – I don’t think he realizes how many times hee called me over the last 3 months – he says finances have to be discussed – no, they don’t – you want to know what I think – he might not want to come back but one of his huge emotional needs is Conversation – a.d he gets that fullfilled by me right now. He has always called – he doesn’t know how it is without it. I also told him that every time he tells me how lonely he is I could just puke. That he is always the victim and that it really pisses me off. He complained that I didn’t involve him in preparing X-mas – what was I supposed to do – spoonfeed it to him – he wants to be proactive for next year – haha – he wants a financial plan in advance next year. Oh and in the end he re-confirmed that he had no affair, did not leave me for another woman and had no sex with anyone else then me (which is 7 months ago) – he left out the phone sex but he doesn’t know I know. And I said to him if I ever find out that he is lying about any of the above I don’t know what I am going to do...
That’s it in a nutshell – I still think he had an affair - but at least the co-worker has now my email address – you never know – right now she is angry with him that I contacted her – who knows why – I just gave her my email address and said I had a few questions and if she couold contact me – I was polite and I am not sorry for it.
