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All - thanks. Update from tonight. Wife is still pissed, practically childish. She is glaring at me all night, one word responses, going out of her way to make sure she isn't near me, etc. After the kids go to bed, she initiates a conversation. W says she talked to OM today and they have ended it. OM wants nothing to do with this and doesn't want in the middle of it. During this I re-iterated that if it didn't end, I would contact W of OM. This pissed her off again.

She did admit tonight that she was the one that crossed the line and she shouldn't have. Of course, I pushed her there in her mind from years of being too distant.

After the talk, things were a little more cordial. Not friendly by any stretch, but the glaring had stopped and she seemed willing to be within 50 ft of me.

She told me this was between us, not him. That we either worked this out or got divorced but it would be about us.

I used DB techniques, confirmed her perspective and said I understand and that I have changed if she's just attempt to see it