Do you have to decied right away? You said you have 30 days till final? How long do you have until you could no longer file an extension?
My question is this... What if you took all the pressure off for a few days/weeks and was very agreeable everytime he talked about it?
Quote: He says that he sees no point in extending since I will never change. And that my expectations are too high. I said I can lower them but he says it won't work because I have a bar of how low I'm willing to go and that even if I lower for a month that it will go back up and I'll be demanding again! I ask well what is the problem with squeezing my hand back when I squeeze yours, and returning my hugs instead of letting your arms hang limply at your side and maybe once a week saying ILY...can you do that? He says he sees no point now since he's done
Is there a way to have these conversations without the R talks? Maybe he is feeling a lot of pressure from this type of conversation?? JMHO
My H also goes back and forth. Wants to keep me close, yet have all the freedom. Confusion and guilt are on high on the list. So I go with the flow.
I have started thinking about it this way. While I DO NOT want to be D, I DO NOT want the old relationship back. So I am putting it to rest. And if that means it will take a D for closure of that R to lay the groundwork for a new and improved R, so be it.
Again, every situation is different and you need to do what is right for you.
