I think it's time to do what you have to do. Could things change? Sure, but that can happen no matter what you do. He has decided to play dirty, you can decide to play fair, but tough.
How was your weekend? Were you able to do anything to enjoy yourself for you?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I finally got the opportunity to test out my H's theory on not being the jealous type.
He still insists he doesn't care if I date, he just cares about the impact on the kids from seeing it. So basically, it the kids don't see it, he's okay with it.
He spoke with all the kids tonight. That was nice. It took a while, but I finally talked them into it. I really think they need to find their way back to each other, so it might not have been good dbing, but it felt right for me. I felt bad for H. He sounded like he was about to cry when he hung up.
I'm going to test out the dating thing and see what happens. He sent me 21 emails today about dating, where I could live if I met someone, etc. He seems a smidge overinvested for someone who doesn't care, though.
I'm guessing he cares, but he won't say it. He might not want you, but that doesn't mean it's ok for you to be with someone else. He might still be keeping you as plan B in his mind.
Dating.... My advice is don't do it unless you are done. Too many conflicting emotions can come into play.
If I do it, it will be because I've met someone that I think could enhance my life. I don't plan to go looking, but I won't rule out spending time with someone else.
Right now, I'm just glad that H and I have agreed to a truce for the sake of the kids. It's much easier to deal with him when I don't want to kill him. lol
