No advice you've been given here is apparently worthy in your situation because its just "so unusual", or you've already tried it.
What else would you expect from someone who's been dealing with the problem for a long time? Is it reasonable for me to try something again just because it's the first time you, in particular, are suggesting it? I'm not saying my problem is unusual, but I am saying it's difficult and maybe impossible. And my therapists have told me as much.
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but why are you also convinced that you "cannot accept it long term", when you are also not willing to divorce?
Exactly what I say. I'm not willing to accept it long term, meaning I may divorce in the long term. But I'm not willing to divorce now. Maybe that's a strange concept to people who focus mostly on the "am I in love or not" of the moment. It's possible to want to stay married for now, and like it, and yet realize that a divorce down the road is probably the best, or likely, etc.
