GW, I was very tempted to contact the OW in my sitch, put that out there on this forum and was told clearly and unanimously... NO! I was reminded that this person was a predator on your family and is likely a dysfunctional person to have made the choices they made. It is not likely to accomplish anything and more like to be upsetting for you. It also tends to push your spouse and OP more together because they feel persecuted.
so... I left it. I have not given the OW in my case the time of day. I act like she does not exist.
