How are you doing tonight GW? I also thought about confronting OM (me, W and him all work at same company), however, I have decided against it....for now. I do pass him in the hall from time to time and glare at him just to make him nervous
Right now, your priority is to regain the respect of your W by showing that you have strength, and most importantly, self-respect. The best way to accomplish this is through establishing boundaries and clearly communicating the consequences of crossing them. When I confronted my W, I did not establish clear consequences. While I gained a little bit on the respectometer, it was not enough for her to break her A and want to work on things. Don't make the same mistake that I did, it leads to the famed Limboland which I now have to break out of somehow.
I have read time and time again on this forum that the WAS have to experience the crisis of potentially losing the LBS to spark them into action. That is the same scenario that launched the LBS into action, right? The WAS need to really feel that they don't have you in their back pocket as a fall back option anymore. This is why boundaries, GAL and loving detachment are the foundation of DBing.
