Going straight forward...antlers 5th thread.

[antlers]

Hi Antlers,

While I can realate to your wife position to some extent, (she has much healing to do in her 'new life)

I will also share.. comparing where you are at & where my StBX is at is like night & day.

I will share that DB'ers like you & Distressed67 give spouses like me who were/are married to spouses like you & him used to be & my StBX still are, you give us "hope" that significant positive changes are possible and sustainable.

Blessings to you & your family as during this special time of year.

Peace
Bridge

Hello Bridgestone.

Sorry about the emotional post this morning, but I was down and out...and your post was a blessing to me. I had a hard night (no sleep) because things are such a mess, especially with my kids and I. They are emotional wrecks, and they are treating me like I used to treat their mother and them. If God gave me wings and a halo, she still wouldn't believe that I had changed one bit! You realizing that "significant positive changes are possible and sustainable" means a whole bunch to me. Thank you for your blessing. I'm sorry for you Bridgestone, that you had to walk on eggshells for so long because of an angry, abusive, and resentful spouse. I know firsthand what kind of damage that treatment causes.

Your feedback/posts have always been especially helpful to me, and I hope I can return the benefits. Your insight was/is important to me because of the similarities between you and her (because of the way you both were treated). If I can be of benefit to you because of similarities between him and I (because of the way we treated our loved ones), I'll gladly do it.

As always, I'm thankful for you...I just wish I could hear from you more often.

Thank you again for your post...you've no idea how important it was to me.


Happy Holidays, and a happy life to you.

antlers