Glad to see a fellow Carolinian! Sometimes I think we forget how fortunate we are to live in such a beautiful region.... except when it's this cold!
I have already taken care of the financial situation, ie. transferring funds to my account as soon as they are deposited. I know it sounds harsh, but I could very well see him draining the account out of spite and I don't know what kind of nudging she's giving him. He's up one day and down the other and I don't want to become the victim to his apathy towards our lives and finances. He's not rational right now and his change in his daily demeanor towards me is frightening at times.
Thanksgiving almost killed me. I was devastated and went to Charlotte to visit my family and couldn't make it 10 minutes without crying or, excuse me, vomiting from the thought. Rational, I don't know??? I went to our family doctor and he put me on a low dose of antidepressents to help me cope a little bit better. Seems to have made life a little easier from time to time although I was generally adamant about never taking long term prescriptions that were not absolutely necessary.
I fought to urge to call him. He screamed about wanting space in the beginning and I have tried, but slipped several times because I'm a "fixer" by nature. I have for the last few weeks backed off quite drastically from the way I was in the beginning. Seems to have gotten him to come around and call more, but I just don't want him to mistake this for condoning his behavior. I guess it doesn't matter what I think.
We shall see. I'm trying to take it all one day at a time, but that is the true challenge for me because patience is not my strongest virtue. However, I am staying hopeful although some days are worse than others and somedays I want to grab him by his shirt collar and tell him what an absolute jerk he is being. I appreciate all thoughts and feedback and I hope you have a wonderful holiday!!
