it but hey would not allow the divorce he continued it until feb.
WHY? What difference does it make if she uses drugs or won't pay CS? Surely he can order that stuff after he agrees to the D?
IDK why... he seemed to be confident that he needed these things addressed. my lawyer even asked for it to be final.
I made the mistake with making a sigh and rolling my head when he said he was not granting the divorce yet.. so im sure when the judge took notice and said sorry mr. XXXXX but, (I bet that pissed her off big time)
I can't belive she is such a POS trying to make me look bad but the judge wanted nothing to do with what she said and just kept turning back at her and going off saying he should throw her in jail..
funny thing I didnt get the skipping a beat from her today ????
iritated she brought "B" but its her trying to make me think she is in a good spot but really it shows what a looser she is.. and "B" has to be seeing his GF looks like a looser and got her arse torn up bad by the judge
I guess this might sound dumb but when does her anger towards me end?? Im know I shouldn't let it bother me too much but it does.. I just figured some people here would have a better idea when it will.. she clearly did this all to her self and she seems to direct her anger and hurt towards me. When will she care about her kids (not just say she does) but really care and spend the little time she has with them
well yesterday W texted me a few times right when I got to work.. she said she had no way to pick up and wanted to know if she could pick them up first thing in the morning befor I left for work. I told her I needed to get some stuff for there stockings and some gifts and I was going to use the time with the kids gone to do that. I offered to drop them off at her parents house. long story short she tells me to call her after work, when I do call she sounds very upset.. I asked her what was wrong and told her she sounded differant. I kept a very upbeat attitude and I noticed she started to pick up her old upbeat voice..
(and I guess I fail to mention in court she looked very rough... maybe her dream world is not what she keeps telling everyone) I could tell she was not ready for me to be so nice I guess... we ended up talking a few times befor I dropped the kids off due to the roads and such but I think if I can keep this up maybe I can get past the fighting put my anger for what she did behind me in the past and maybe for my mind have a better relationship for the kids sake..
FIL made It a point to say hi when I dropped the kids off which I was a bit surprised since he is such a quiet guy that doesn't say much
I did go shopping with an old friend and I have to say I had a blast... we were joking and laughing in all the stores just like years back when we were kids... I got home very late but Im not too tired so far
I think that its good for the kids. They should see you respecting their mother- and her you. Especially since you want them to be respectful- lead by example, you can also lead by example by showing them that the right thing to do isnt always the easy thing to do.
(((WL)))
Im glad that you go out with your friend! You only need to start worrying if you catch yourself laughing like Bevis and Butthead!
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
well I dont see myself laughing like bevis and butthead well not anytime soon LMAO
IDK though im very confused with my feeling right now. I know everywhere it says to be nice but it just does not feel right to me..
I did see on the state court site she is finally facing charges now.. on jan 6th is the first court apperance where she has to make a plea. I hope they finally put a stop to her "fun"
Im sure that it doesnt feel right because you are angry, she did some pretty nasty things, and the anger is not unfounded. But that does not mean that you should indulge it.
You can be respectful without being "nice". And really, what has she done to deserve "nice"?
I hope that the court appearance throws a wet blanket on her fantasy too!
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
well last night she texted me and wished me a happy x-mas eve and wanted to know when I was dropping the kids off and for how long she would have them for... I told her that 11:00 was what the judge said (and she had just said this her self befor and even asked if I would drop them off earlier)
Just is so strange she keeps going over the plans for things we already talked about and set up..
and also maybe im reading into this too much but, in court she asked and the judge agreeded and told her she could call the kids every night.. as she wanted just he told her not to harass me. not to call at 2 am high ect.. so my question is why has she not called the kids once??? and she turned down having them thursday...
(If i read into it which I already did. sorry, but I think its like when she first left the C always said she was more concerned about US then the kids)
bluerain, I know what you mean but I find Im a very giving person (maybe this is a problem of mine) I I guess I have a hard time seperating the two.. see she will ask for things like today, she called this morning and wished me a happy x-mas and then went on to say her mom was getting off at 11:00 and said that if i was running late it would be fine because her mom really wanted the kids to see the gifts with her there to watch.. so I said ok, and of course Im a early person and I got into town early. so I took the kids to my parents and let them open some gifts.
