That really does help. Especially the obsessing. I tend to overanalyze everything he does. It drives me nuts, but I can't seem to stop. I also am having a really hard time keeping my mouth shut about the OW. Everytime he lies about where he is, I have to fight the urge to call him out or ask questions about her (mainly to let him know I'm not an idiot and I know everything that is going on).
I'm trying my best to detach. He isn't in the house anymore and I'm trying to "go dim" as much as possible. I still find myself having the urge to call him or text him. Right now, I got a voicemail (which he hasn't left me an actual voicemail in month) from him asking how I was feeling because I was under the weather. I want to badly to return the call because the fact that he left a voicemail is something unusual for him since this all started. I don't think I will, but it kills me. Thank you for the pointers that really helps seeing your "hind sight". I will pray for your marriage KJ. I hope everything works out for you and your husband. Keep praying!
