But my DB coach told me something I'll never forget, --"Contrast the negative images he's created to justify his choice, with positive images that undermine the negative. Contrast the warmth and love he can find at home, with whatever he's finding out there in the cold tundra..." and see what happens" and since it was only a few days, I was able to pull it off. We had a great Christmas...and another turning point I think. And more positive memories for the kids.
That's amazing! I love hearing this kind of advice and the effect it had. Thanks 25, your post back on page 9 about not wanting to grow up applies to me completely.
My .02 is this: buy her a gift. I don't see why it would be a question, especially after she got you one. She's your wife, you love her, this is an easy way to show it. Heck, I just sent my W flowers AFTER being told she was filing, and it worked. I'm remembering the fun part of romance and why we get into these crazy relationship things in the first place.
I know we're all hurting on here, and have gone through things a spouse should never be subjected to, but be careful bashing the WAS or projecting your own anger and sitch. I like Kev's idea of a gamble. Maybe it'll work.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
