Getting back on track ...

[P17]

I posted this in the Going Dark forum, but I wanted to post here as it's relevant to my reason for starting the thread.

I wanted this thread to represent my plan of where I go to from here. I'm currently in NC with my W and thought I would post my goals from Plan B and ask for advice, suggestions or comments?!

1. Force WAS to get all EN's from OM by removing me and D from her life.
2. Force WAS to live the fantasy life by disappearing completely from the radar (going very dark).
3. Stop snooping, asking, looking or being interested in W, OM or the affair.
4. Stop W cake eating.
5. Begin to figure out myself
6. Heal, understand and embrace my pain and hurt.
7. Get a life.
8. Begin to feel in control of my life again and do things that make ME happy. Be selfish sometimes.
9. Feel comfortable with who I am and begin to learn and understand myself better, flaw, warts and all.
10. Understand and own my sh*t within the marriage.
11. Accept the end of the M.
12. Protect my marriage. Keep enough love to decide if I want to continue it or end it.
13. This is about me not my wife.
14. Understand that the W I married is gone now and may never come back.
15. Reconnect with D and get back to being the best dad I can.