Good points, Nut. My objective is to continue to do everything in my power to suck the energy out of her affair. Im hoping that having complete control of the money will help that along, as will setting firm boundaries re: her visiting the house per Coach and Puppy's recommendations. Now that she isn't in therapy anymore, I was thinking that maybe it is time to play that card. I don't know how much dbag's spouse knows about anything. My wife says they are far along in their divorce, but when I think about it, why would I believe that?! For all I know, they might not be.
I don't want to punish her. I want to make it not fun to be immoral, and not easy to continue the affair.
Re: church, did I mention my wife is a preacher's kid? anyway, we only began to attend church again the past couple of months, so we are new to the church and don't know many people well there.
I think the only thing that stops me from talking to dbag's wife is that I don't want to give my wife any ammo for her misplaced anger. I'm firm but civil with her. Not a pushover, not waiting around for her to return. What if dbag's spouse gets him and my wife fired from their bank? I wonder if it then backfires on me (because then I am the bad guy).
