Friday night was a disaster - he closes banks and works late but said he was probably gonna be early (8-9) usually close around 11pm. I called him and he never responded...son called and no response either. I text him "im worried now (since he said it'd be an early night) said, "i'm gonna call cathy to see if you left" (a coworker) he text back immediately..."im gonna hang with the group for a while." I got mad and said it's enough. He's been working late and hasn't been around at all. Plus he had to go to work on saturday too!
He came home at 1am - don't know where the heck he really was. I just don't know. He made some comments about our relationship and was very rude and mean. He had a big red mark on his neck - he said, "what?...it's not a hickey my shirt rubbed my neck cuz it was too tight." Whatever. It wasn't a hickey but it was definately irritated - only a fool could think otherwise. We argued for just a bit he threatened to leave - I said "do what you're gonna do" and we went to bed. We talked a little bit of "matter of fact stuff" we're such weirdos! lol cuz deep down we have mad love funny....yet NOT
Sat went to work didn't expect for him to show up until 10pm or so. He walked in at 1pm. I was still lounging - gonna take a nap cuz I was exhausted. I was like oh no he's home...but shocked he came so early. Remember I had plans to go to friends for dinner with kids - son says, "oh dad we're going to friends for dinner." H says, "oh that will be nice." Who said he was invited?
He's constantly on his blackberry (work stuff) and when were getting ready to leave I said, "you are not taking that - it's enough". I said, "are you at work or home?" He rolled his eyes and left it. We went to friends house.
He respects this friend of mine alot so I wondered if he would act like a jerk or not. He was drinking so he loosened up a bit. We all talked at the table. I had no idea she would do this but she brought our R up. She said, "I don't know what's really going on with you guys but you better work things through." She keeps talking about how she has looked up to us (our marriage) has always wanted a marriage like ours (her H left her for OW) but she is happy now.
Friend tells H, "I have you on a pedestal as a great H so don't disappoint me." We talked about relationships and what is expected of both people etc. H seemed to listen and didn't make a rude comments (I was waiting for them) He did imply that HER H was probably happy that he left. She denied that was the case.
Throughout the night she talked about her birthday and said, "you better mark it on the calendar." She tells us and H says, "oh WERE not gonna be here." He has been saying this whole time, "I'll be out of town...I am not gonna be here." So I thought it was funny that he said we.
Well Sunday morning he did say, "you know friend said some nice things last night." I said, "yes she did." We continued with our day of shopping and lunch with the kids. H didn't seem very close to me - kinda distant but whatever. We had a nice dinner and he mentioned he had a nice/relaxing dinner with me. I wrapped gifts when we got home while he watched. I said, "let's sleep naked"..we both hate to sleep naked lol. We went to bed and had some matter of fact sex (lol sorry) that's how I felt...but it was ok
Today he text me "I'm doing everything I can to get out of here early so we can go shopping." I said, "sounds great." He text back, "see if the kids wanna come." This may be his way of being nice - or it's just a have to cuz Christmas is Friday! I'll give him the benefit of the doubt this time.
I tried to condense the sitch as much as possible hope you can follow.
Luv
Last edited by luvless; 12/21/0910:22 PM.
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
funny....yet NOT
