Sadly Future the fastest catalyst for change is pain.
She's going to be pain this Xmas and New Year. Tough love dictates that you don't make it easier on her. It's counter-intuitive and sucks to serve it because it takes a lot out of yourself too.
Its not always successful. That's why I told you to ask her if you could bring someone to that thing of yours and then quickly backtrack. i.e. to instill the fear of loss in her, but not let her know that all is lost.
Get yourself geared up for a blowout New Year's party. Ensure that you are on your best behavior, don't drink too much, have fun... and ensure that wherever you go that someone will be there to report back to her. Party like it's the end of 2009... a new decade is ahead of you and you are FREEEEEEEE!!!!!
Let her feel the pain during this period and throw her a bone after the New Year to gauge her temperature. Think of her as a wild mustang that needs to be tamed.
