Hello! I'm glad you all found me!

Eggnog (I've been using brandy, but Stoli will work!), Baileys, peppermint AND butterscotch schnapps, hot chocolate... it's all good! Kalni, you looking for a Jack?

The menu.... well, pretty much anything that we can cook on the grill, pies, cheesecake, lasagna.... heck, if it's edible, it's on the menu!

I'm going to work backwards as bit... something hit me this morning that I think we all forget sometimes!

I played golf yesterday (it was a bit over 70 degrees, sorry!) and hit several of the best drives I have ever hit. Straight and long. On the 18th hole (that's the last one!) there's a lake. You either have to carry about 200 yards, or go around it, almost certainly adding a shot. I used to play around it, but lately I've been trying for over, sometimes with success, sometimes not. Yesterday, I hardly even looked at the water. Instead I was looking at where I wanted the ball to be when it got to the other side. There's a bunker on one side, and a little creek that runs into the lake on the other, so there's not a really huge area to hit to. But I looked down there, and just picked where I wanted the ball to end up. Then I hit it jsut where I wanted... though perhaps even farther than I expected! When I hit the ball there wasn't even a question of whether it was going to clear the water, it was like the water wasn't there. What's my point? I think we all act way too much out of fear in our situations. When we take the fear out of it (in this case, the fear of the water), we can do things that we never imagined we could do!(That drive was 260 yards, straight as an arrow... no wind, not downhill, just whacked!) When we let our fear control us (look at the the lake, and make the whole point of the swing to avoid the water), guess what seems to happen more often than not? SPLASH!

We spent a lot of your time worrying that we were going to do something to "lose" our spouse. We were focused on that lake... we needed to focus on improving our lives, hitting the fairway beyond the lake! Doing that, the lake takes care of itself. Will the marriage be saved? Maybe, maybe not. But I think we give it the best chance, and we make sure that at the end, we are the best we can be, either way.