Spoke to W this morning and asked the same question. She said she has not called yet
You are pursuing when you do that. Don't bring it up anymore. And.....stop chit-chatting on the phone. Remember, you have a busy life! You don't have time for her. You are suppose to be "unavailable" to her. When she calls and doesn't have anything important to say, you tell her you were on your way out the door (or something) and is there something she needed to say.
Pat......let her be the one to ask questions. You were asking too many questions and getting her to talk.
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W also stated that she would like to get back in church. She must be feeling guilty. I asked when she'd like me to pick her up. She again said, she does not know but maybe start going back after holidays, but not to our church. Stated she ran into other woman from church and prob would not feel comfortable going back there. Does not want to be constantly judged.
Did she say all of this when she called you on the phone? B/c she had already said that when the two of you were standing in the rain that day.
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I do believe my M is salvagable.
Oh, I do too! Just as long as you do not tollerate her including OM in her R with you. I am a bit concerned. Remember when I told you she would test you? That phone call may have been a test to see if you will be friends with her. She may have been taking your temp, so to speak, to see if you were going to be friends with her. She may even test you to see if you'll be friends and still allow her to keep OM.
Be careful.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
